Falling in love and being in a relationship in this generation sucks. Long-term
relationships are usually associated with a miracle if not with sacrifices and
other forms of intrigues and issues.
It is natural to yearn for a long-lasting relationship. And it is really not that
difficult and complicated to understand as to how most of us normally
perceive it to be.
The natural ways to keep your relationship working are:
Love
Of course. The main reason why we get involved in a relationship.
The very foundation of any relationship should be greater and solid enough
for it to last.
And it is to love and be loved.
It is already self-explanatory that for you two to last is to own love.
A sincere one.
Never lie
Even white lies don’t do any good in any relationship.
Just be honest.
Does it cost you anything for being honest? Why it is so hard for you to tell
the truth?
If you can’t be honest, then don’t COMMIT. Relationship is not for you.
If you are the type which it really pains you whenever you speak of truth,
Or the one who always sugar-coat a thing to make it appear more favorable
than the actual situation,
Or someone who can’t stand to tell the straight truth and has that deep need
in inserting sweet lies in your stories,
then don’t ENGAGE anyone for a relationship.
Communicate
Keep your communication with your partner open twenty-four-seven or as
often as you could.
You should be open with each other.
You should communicate.
You should talk.
You should be aware of each other’s thoughts, feelings, and emotions.
Okay, a personal space is understandable, a lil mystery is always allowed.
But — -
Don’t ever let your partner ponder on to something or be confuse over
something because you didn’t explain it fully to her/him. Don’t underestimate
the power of hesitation and uncertainty.
It is a dangerous enemy.
Stay sweet
No matter how long you are being together, you should still find time to
gather and make the spark happen.
Keep on teasing.
Make that baby talking.
Do that sweet gesture.
Make that funny and sweet faces to your significant other just like when you
first met him or her.
Just like the first time around.
The time when you are still wooing him/her.
The first time you wanted to get his/her attention.
The first time you seek to pursue him/her.
Forgive and Forget
Don’t forgive and remember nor you should just forget.
You must do these two.
These two should come along. TOGETHER.
Whenever your partner hurt your feelings, tell him/her.
Don’t let your partner be wrapped with confusion and hesitation.
Remember the dangerous enemy? Yes, UNCERTAINTY. Unclear issues.
Unaddressed problems. Not tackled information.
About what? About the two of you. You have the problem. You should say it. You
should discuss it. You should explain it. As said, OPEN COMMUNICATION is very
important.
Then FORGIVE and FORGET.
The moment you decided to forgive your partner for his/her wrongdoing or
misdemeanor, that must be the same moment when you should forget
everything.
Do not bring that topic or issue again.
Remember when the thing is done, let it be done.
Don’t go back and forth. Leave it behind. Just like a closed case.
Don’t talk about break-ups, exes or anything that associates with it
What could be the reason you are going to break up with me?
How did you and your ex fall apart?
Why did you break up? Did she/he cheated on you?
Sure, it may sound cool to discuss this and to appear that you are open with
every possibility which may come later on to your relationship, but then it as
well signals the idea that even before you started the relationship, you are
already thinking of a way to end it.
Stop accommodating such idea.
Unless of course, you wanted a break-up instead of a long-lasting
relationship?
The thing is, don’t ever talk about break-ups, exes, or compare your present
with the thing from your past.
If you are the one who hasn’t moved on yet, a relationship is the least thing
you needed as of the moment.
What you truly needed is solitude.
The sense of peace with yourself and with your past.
That’s what you truly need.
Thus, stop fooling around.
And stop dragging people into your mess.
Stop it now if you are still a soul trapped in the past.
Never say OKAY when it is NOT
It is okay to compromise.
It is okay to agree that you disagree.
But then, never say you are OKAY with something you are NOT.
Never make yourself comfortable with a treatment you cannot take.
Never force yourself to pretend that it is OKAY when in fact it is NOT.
Sooner or later, that same issue will be the reason that will part the two of
you.
You may disregard that thing now, but that same thing will keep on arising
and will surely haunt you in the future.
If there is a thing that is bothering you, or which is making you feel
uncomfortable, say it.
Tell your partner you don’t like it, that you are not okay with it.
And together, you need to fix it, you need to compromise about it.
That way it won’t grow and prosper or worse make a major comeback as a
much bigger issue which you could no longer handle.
Remember the golden rule: GIVE AND TAKE
In a relationship, it is not healthy when the other person continually gives
while the other keeps on receiving.
The one who keeps on giving will eventually dry out and emptied
himself/herself no matter how generous and kind-heart she/he may be.
It is just like your normal daily routine. You don’t wake up every single day
with a good day and big bright smile on your face. You have different moods,
you have a variety of attitudes whenever you wake up. There are times when
you wake up on the wrong side of the bed and there are times as well when
you feel good and energetic.
Just the same in a relationship.
There are bad days and good days.
There are times when you can give your whole hundred percent to your
partner.
There are also honest occasions when what you can only give off is a mere
twenty-percent and your partner had to reach out and provide for the
remaining eighty to fill the gap.
Just like that.
You give and take.
Depending on your current situation and which apply best on your current
circumstances.
Don’t be the perfect one, be the right one
At the end of the day, don’t seek to be the person you are not.
Don’t try to be perfect for your partner.
Don’t try to fit your partner’s taste and preferences. Although there is nothing
wrong on that. But throughout the process, there is a high possibility that you
are going to lose yourself. Don’t lose yourself. Don’t lose your individuality.
All you need to do is to be right for him/her.
Just be the right person that he/she truly needs.
After all, love is not changing your being in order to fit for someone’s liking.
Love is all about accepting you for who you are as a person, as an individual,
as a being, as a soul and becoming the right one for the other.
A love that is sincere and pure will accept you for who you are.
No mask.
No pretense.
No demands.
No fake facade.
Just you. The authentic. The bare. The naked YOU.