It's difficult to figure out at first that the relationship you'd invested will turn out to be toxic one day. Don't be hard on yourself. Sometimes this really happened and it is not your fault. Often times, as couples go on long term relationship bad habits starting to show up and turn a promising relationship into a damaging or toxic one.
This may take months or years before it will languish the relationship you had with your partner. If you do not know the signs of a toxic relationship, you end up losing yourself in the process and much difficult for you to move on and find another happiness in someone else. So, read on to make you more vigilant of these signs.
1. Your Partner Will Be Overly Critical On You
Having a partner should always mean you have someone to support you in whatever venture you would like in your life, be it a dream business or career. If you are starting to feel like you are walking on the eggshell just so you can't hear critics from your partner then probably you are in a toxic relationship. A healthy relationship must give leeway to their partners for whatever they may think worthy to invest in. This could be tough if your partner grows in a home where criticizing someone is just as natural as breathing because it will become their habit.
When you started to feel like you are not pleasing your partner, talk to him/her about minimizing this behavior. If nothing is solved with your talk or if you could not come up with a good compromise then it is better to leave just this early to avoid suffering from further damage to your self-esteem.
2. You Feel Like You Lost Your Own Identity
Each one of us has our own interest or hobby as well as opinions. Respect should truly be upheld for each partner in order that you both have a chance to hear each other's opinion or choices. But in some cases, the difference of opinions can lead to arguments which may cause for one partner to control the other.
If you think you have let your opinions or choices passed in order to entertain your partner's then there is a high probability that you are in a toxic relationship. To someone who could do as she wishes, like for a hobby of her own can alleviate their anxiety in later on it will lead to separation.
3. You Feel Contempt From Your Partner
Had you ever hint a sense of disdain from your partner when you did something? Do you feel undervalued? It could be you do that disappoint them. Your partner may try to console you telling it is alright, but you feel that he/she is distancing himself/herself to you, then your feeling might be right.
No one is perfect. In a relationship, mistakes happen. If one could not let things pass and still linger on feeling mad then expect that they find your presence more annoying rather than pleasing.
4. You Do Not Have A Life Outside Your Relationship
If you are losing friends or connection because you are just setting him/her your world then you have tendencies to have a toxic relationship. This will turn you to become more obsessed with your partner's time. Most people who do not have their own world outside the relationship tend to be over jealous and controlling.
They want their partner to spend more time in their relationship and not allow them to mingle with others because they are scared of being left alone. The thought that their partner will find someone better as they associate with others will eat their whole system, thus there be more arguments and fights if the other partner will not oblige to do what they want.
5. Your Partner Is Showing Distant Behavior
Good communication is vital in any relationship. If one becomes avoidant for any talks if there is an issue, it could be that he or she is resigned that you will understand his/her side. Good communication happens when you were able to talk and get understood. If the other partner refuses to see her/his perspective then it would make the other partner more avoidant for any talk just not to start a fight or argument.
6. They Do Not Have Each Other's Support
Is your partner trying to hinder one of your activity? Is she/he preventing you from doing what you ought to do? Say, you want to support your sister in some project and you need to do it behind his/her back, then you are in great trouble once your partner found it out.
Sometimes, arguments like this can lead to physical abuse or refraining them from giving you some support that you may need such as in financial aspect.
7. Couples Arguing More
Communicating with each other help eliminates unnecessary arguments in a relationship. If there be arguments, the couples can be able to solve it fast before it will create friction on their relationship. If nothing is solved, then expect more arguing to happen.
Arguing can be hurting if it goes beyond what you can consider a respectful argument. If the couple is already yelling one another instead of raising the argument in a more civil way, there is no longer communication happening around here and more than just fighting.
8. A Feeling That No Issue Is Resolved
It is normal to have arguments and to be mad at some point or another in a relationship. With compromise, things should be alright fast but if nothing happens the continuous feeling makes you tired. Eventually, you will cease to voice out anything like there is no point in arguing though.
9. You Feel Like It's You Making All The Effort To Make Him/Her Happy
A relationship is giving and taking. Thus, effort should not solely comes from one partner. You must do something in order to keep your partner happy, as well as he/she is making you, too. This must be a vice versa in order for both of you to be a recipient of happiness in your relationship.
10. Things Are More Remember Or Returning On The Early Stage Of Relationship
Each day in a relationship should make you hopeful and looking forward to better and better days. If you constantly long for the things in your part, such as when your love is strong then you are surely feeling lonely rather than being happy on the current state of your relationship.
Although we did not say it is bad to recall those happy days in the past--or as what you had done when you both are on the early stage of your relationship, recalling those memories should never bring you into tears or lonelier state.
11. Happiness Seems Fleed Somewhere Else
No relationship does not undergo any storms. Yes, there be hurdles from now and then. However, happiness should still be present knowing you two are both fighting to stay with each other.
If you are feeling more alone while in a relationship, then it is not good for you. You should know that in a healthy relationship, your partner must be able to give stability rather than rocking your emotional state more often.
They should help you restore and rebuild those that are damaged and not just leave you around while they need to have time for their friends at the bar. You and your partner may not have control over everything in a relationship but no one of the two partners should make you feel fighting the battle alone when things are falling apart.
If you are experiencing these signs in your relationship, then our question is...is it really worth it?